“Fucking Off” to Feel Good
February 5, 2025
That said headspace, I think, is what some people would call magic, or maybe the closest thing some people could call magic. Some people are skeptical on what magic is but have your beliefs i’ll have mine. A bit of context, The Life Impossible is about a woman named Grace Winters. She’s “old”, a widower, and has been going throughout her life as existing, up until she is left a house in Ibiza from a deceased old friend named Christina. She is coping with grief, shame, guilt, and most other negative emotions, until she leaves for Ibiza to embark on her journey of discovering the true magic of life (she does get gifted magic powers but that’s besides the point). While yes, she is gifted these abilities to do amazing things for those around her (I’m trying so hard not to spoil things), I never once thought it was her gifts that made the magic around her possible, I think they helped guide her to finding the magic of what life is, which ultimately is finding the extraordinary in the ordinary. Taking account the small things and making them big. To Grace, magic became as simple as taking a sip of orange juice and discovering a world inside the dynamics of the flavor.
I posed the question of why can’t we do the same thing? Which led me to my own anwer of we totally could. She ended up being connected to humanity and everything life had to offer, while simultaneously learning to understand that even through shame, grief, guilt, etc... we are still ALLOWED to experience those small ounces of beauty. We are still ALLOWED to have understand heartbreak and have baggage but CHOOSE to experience the light at the other side of the tunnel. I am grateful to have read this book and feel those moments of beauty with Grace. I resonated deeply with her. I have had my moments of shame and guilt, and like her it’s taken me a moment (alright maybe a few moments) to make the same choice as she did and let go. I am a deep believer that as humanity it should be our state of being to be in the space of joy, in the space of gratitude. So, to reach that point Grace quite nearly just says to the negativity as if they were physical entities that follow her wherever she went to simply “fuck off”. I had my own moment of looking a those entities and telling my own to “fuck off”.
I saw in this book that the point was that we are meant to live unburdened. We are meant to deserve so much more than what is quite literally a systemic feeling of being pushed down by our pasts and our baggage. I swear more often than not I think the feeling of pain is being promoted as the most common form of creativity. Yet, look at a Van Gough Painting. I went with a past flame to the Norton Simon museum and saw one of the most beautiful forms of “fuck you” I have ever seen from Mr. Van Gough himself. If you saw in the room his progression of doing what he felt people expected from him, his work was dark and nearly bland. Then there was one paiting that took my breath away, and he did it when he was committed. Yet, it was the most colorful, vibrant tree I have ever seen. To me, that peice of work was him going “fuck you, you all think I’m crazy so I will paint what I want” and it’s one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.
I guess the point I am trying to make here, other than for people to PLEASE read this book, is to say “fuck off” more often, and I hope you do. I was able to resonate so much, and was thinking of all of the people I wish would say “fuck off” more often because they deserve it. Everyone deserves it, so why not? Go say “fuck off” today. Go find the extraorfinary in your ordinary, or if you feel like you can’t, go pick up this book.